Human is a social animal by his needs and nature. We all happen to interact with people of various natures and attributes in our lives and many have troublesome behavior towards us, and we become unable to deal with them effectively. They may be in our family, university, or workplace. We often associate toxicity with them.
It is not easy to cut off people from our lives, but we can find some ways to deal with them effectively. Here are a few tips to deal with such toxic people:
1. Be Yourself
The first and foremost thing is to be yourself first. You can say ‘NO’ whenever you feel to say without giving them any sort of explanation and justification. You can also disagree with their opinions or reject their requests when you feel that you are being exploited by that person.
2. Don’t be an actor in their reality
Toxic people try to make their own reality and shape themselves as a victim and show that the rest of the world is guilty. Don’t ever try to fall into their self-formed realities and be sure about your own part in their lives. We are not responsible for every problem in their lives which by the way, they have caused as a result of their own actions. We can disagree with their opinions explicitly.
3. Stop taking their behavior personally
Some people try to get into your head and make you realize that whatever you are doing is not good enough or make you feel that you are a failure. But the fact is that whatever they are saying, it’s just a reflection of their own thoughts and mindset. Don’t take it on a personal level and never doubt yourself or your skills.
4. Learn to say ‘No’ to them
It might be difficult to say ‘No’ but it will help you avoid further complications that you may indulge in due to toxic people. They may create drama or gaslight but don’t back down. You have to take yourself out of such situations where you don’t feel like yourself or feel uncomfortable.
Refusing is better than regretting!
5. Set your boundaries
While dealing with toxic people, one should create boundaries around her/himself and that too should be done proactively. This will help you to control the situations and would save you from falling into their traps. People will try to encroach upon you and try to create chaos if you don’t establish your boundaries.
It’s always preferable for one’s to cut off people who spread toxicity in your life, but it is not only a solution. There are times when you have to interact with them then you have to take wise steps to deal with them in a great way.
Share your experiences with toxic people and how you cope up with them.